Dating and Mating Process

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Dating and Mating:

Secular View vs. Biblical View

Brandon Gilford

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Liberty University

PSYC 101-D02 LUO

Introduction How do you find your perfect match? How do you find your partner for life? And when you meet that someone, how do you know you've made the right choice? These are questions we all ask at some point in our life during the dating and mating process. There are many different views and answers to these questions, but in this paper I want to focus on the secular world views and the biblical views and how both views contradict each other.

The Secular View on Dating and Mating Popular or mass culture (including advertising and self-help books) is the most obvious and direct influence on the attitudes associated with the pursuit of romantic relationships (Paul Hollander, Expert Advice on Dating and Mating, p.1) Romance today is now filtered through a media that says marriage is a joke, gay marriages are considered normal, and divorce is your way out. In seeking a mate the world tends to go to the internet dating sites, and social networks for direction. People are also swayed by what the media says is ideal to pursue through TV shows, movies, and talk shows. In today’s world love means sex, and if you’re not sexy then you can’t possibly find the love you are searching for. So the world puts all of there focus completely on things like age, physical beauty, body shape, status symbols, and sex which only focus on the outward appearance. More relationships today are about the thrill, a good relationship revolves around pleasure seeking; once the thrill is gone the relationship is dead. Gods Views on Dating and Mating

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